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11 Signs You Have Your S**t Together As A Male Escort

Updated: Jan 4, 2019



The modern day man has many challenges to deal with but there are certain traits that separate some from the pack. Whether learnt or inherent, these traits will serve you well on your road to mastery of self.


1. You don't compare yourself to others

There are always going to be guys out there who are taller, richer, better looking, have better careers and score higher on every indicator of success that you can think of. Being confident in your own skin means being able to appreciate others, whilst seeing the value and uniqueness in your own. No two escorts are alike and what your client receives from you, is something that only you can give her. Be confident in your ability and have a healthy respect for others, the competition is in your head.



2. You keep your ego in check

It's easy to become the envy of your friends who are not in the industry when they hear that women pay you for sexual encounters. Keeping your ego in check and not buying into the surface level perception is a sign of a mature and professional escort who appreciates the women who make his job possible. Others will rarely see the effort you put in to create the lifestyle you enjoy, so remain humble and stay focused on the client, hubris comes before the fall.



3. You accept things as they are

Life is full of unpredictable moments, some good, some bad but a mature man realises that it's our perception that gives meaning to these events. Acceptance doesn't mean resignation, it means that you accept the reality of the situation as you see it and deal with the cards you have been dealt. Learning to accept the situation in a calm and collected manner will help you deal with anything that comes your way.



4. You don't seek approval

A man who doesn't seek approval is one who can give a woman a genuine compliment and not expect anything back in return. He can also speak his mind and have a client disagree with him without it being an issue at all. Approval seeking is manipulation that comes from a place of weakness. Not seeking approval means that you're confident in your beliefs and are not trying to impress or curry favour.



5. You don't take things personally

No matter who you are or what you do, there will be clients who don't take a shine to you for whatever reason. A mature man can accept this without internalising it and making it about him. On the other hand, he can also realise that there may be behavioural traits that he needs to work on without it defining him as a person.



6. You look to learn from others

He surrounds himself with people who will call him on his shit. It's easy to end up with people in our social circle who tell us what we want to hear but self-awareness and 'yes-men' seldom go hand in hand. A mature man recognises this and actively looks to engage with people who are more evolved in certain areas so he can learn from them.



7. You're always evolving

This is a trait that many successful people have in spades. Setting new goals and challenges ensures continuous growth as we boldly move outside our comfort zone. The new experiences that we embrace along the way help us to stay alert, active and young at heart. It's not about the final destination, it's about the journey.



8. You're content

Being happy and content in the moment is a state of mind because there will always be more to achieve. Understanding this gives a man a real sense of peace whilst still being able to strive for what he wants. There will always be a bigger house, a faster car and more money to earn but these things are not what defines him. Happiness comes from within and is not subject to the attainment of external possessions that can come and go.



8. You're not afraid of failure

Failure is an invented concept that we attach to things that don't go the way we intended. Being open to different outcomes and accepting them as part of the learning process is a sign of a fearless man who isn't afraid to make mistakes. He tries new things knowing that he'll more than likely mess up many times before he gets it right. But when he does succeed, he'll have mastered something new that adds value to his life.



9. You know how to communicate

One of women's biggest gripes with men is that we don't communicate. Science tells us that women are much more willing to share their thoughts and emotions but that's no excuse for us not to open up and express how we really feel. The evolved man is able to articulate his thoughts, have them challenged, and engage in an open conversation that ends amicably whether the other person is in agreement or not. He doesn't sweep things under the carpet or pretend it's not an issue, he confronts them head-on when necessary. Communication is a skill that a mature man is keenly aware of and understanding the difference in the way the genders communicate is at the core of this.



10. You don't lie

Nothing signals integrity like the ability to tell the truth no matter what the situation. This trait builds trust and demonstrates that you are a man of your word whether people agree with you or not. This is a difficult discipline that many never learn to master but a mature man is an avid student and one who is committed to achieving the highest standards.



11. You nurture the women in your life

A deep appreciation of women and a desire to nurture them is a trait that separates the men from the boys, especially in the world of escorting. A man who actively makes an effort to enrich the lives of his clients is a rare breed. He takes the time to listen and creates an environment where they can be free to let go knowing that they are in the company of a man who cares about their wellbeing.




A man's ability to reflect on his mistakes, learn from them and evolve is what separates him from the men who remain stagnant. As a high-class escort, we are held to a much higher level of accountability because that is the market we have chosen to position ourselves in. And as such, we are required to behave in a manner befitting someone who deserves to command the type of fees that we do.


I have listed a number of books in the recommended reading section here that I have found particularly helpful on my path, especially when I have faced difficult times.



We'll talk again soon.


Your friend,



M




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