• Madison James

5 Things They Don't Tell You When You Become A Male Escort

Within the world of escorting, there are rules and conventions that most seem to follow almost without question. However, given the intimate nature of escorting and the potential risks, it's necessary for each individual to decide what works best for them.

Here are 5 important things to consider that most won't tell you about when getting into the industry.

1. You can pick your clients just as much as they pick you

A common assumption is that when a client requests you, your job is to turn up and perform as expected pretty much regardless of whom you're meeting with. This may be the case if you work for an agency because many will purposely keep you in the dark regarding the client's particulars. For some escorts, this makes little difference and so long as they are paid, they will rock up, perform and think of someone else whilst getting busy if required.

I've met some escorts who will literally go through all the missed calls on their phone and text each one, simply stating their postcode, a date and a time slot.

Working as an independent escort gives you the opportunity to screen your own clients and the freedom to decide who you spend time with. The type of clients who you decide to see will ultimately shape your experience within the industry. Your work often dictates a huge part of your lifestyle so regardless of what you choose to do, make sure it's your decision and not someone else's.

2. You can make plenty of money as a straight escort

There is often a certain type of reaction when you inform agencies that you only meet with women, especially if you don't do couples. They'll tell you that this will pretty much reduce your chances of getting booked to zero as most requests are for couples or bisexual encounters. This may be true for their client base but if you know how to market yourself effectively you can see who you like and it will be on your own terms.

3. You don't need an agency to market your services

Agencies can offer escorts a really good level of exposure and access to bookings on a regular basis but there are many escorts who work independently and do a good job of marketing their business. This can require a lot of effort but in my opinion, it's definitely worth it. I provide some handy tips on how independent escorts can market their services here if this is a route that you're considering.

4. The client doesn't call all the shots

Deciding to meet with a client is based on an agreement which should be negotiated so that both parties are happy. There should be clear and concise communication regarding what is expected of both parties and where the boundaries lie. Neither is subordinate to the other and respect should always be a mutual thing. Even in a situation where one may be hired for a submissive role (for example), this is still based on explicit consent and the individual always has the final say on how they are to be treated.

As a high-class escort, I believe the focus should be on pleasing your client and going the extra mile as standard, so I may choose to treat her like an absolute princess and carry all her heavy bags when we travel, open doors, pull out chairs, massage her feet, run her bath and whatever else I can do to make her life more enjoyable whilst she's in my company. However, this is a choice and I do it because I enjoy putting a smile on her face.

The point is that as an escort, you're not hired to carry bags or make dinner or take out the trash and I've done all these things in the past when staying with a client for weeks at a time. But I wouldn't do this if I felt the client was disrespectful or felt that she was in a position of superiority because she's paying for my time.

5. You don't have to f**k like a porn star to satisfy a client

Many of us come of age (no pun intended) watching movies of pornstars hammering away at a sexy brunette as she gets pounded to within an inch of her life. It's no wonder that we tend to epitomise this as the pinnacle of sexual performance when it comes to pleasing a woman, but that's not necessarily the case.

Of course, there are times when your client will literally just want to f**k, and that's fantastic, which is why I've written a piece here with that very title, but there is a lot more to turning a woman on and keeping her aroused than 30-45-minutes of hot steamy sex.

Much of a woman's sexual pleasure is mental so as a high-class escort, a considerable amount of effort should be made to learn how to nurture this. Tantra offers some super intense methods for you to explore her body and mind in ways that she's probably never experienced before.

Many have never taken the time to learn how to bring a woman to orgasm with just the power of the mind or by simply stroking her vagina in a particular way. Once you can do this, you'll realise that penetration is just one of many ways that you can rock her world.

Escorts come in all shapes and sizes and we all have the right to decide how we approach this line of work. Take time to really consider the type of lifestyle you are looking to create because this will be determined by the boundaries that you set.

Always be respectful of other peoples right to hold the views that they do but it doesn't mean you have to go along with them. If you're not careful, you may find yourself in situations that you'd prefer to avoid so never allow anyone to pressure you into doing something that doesn't feel right.

Working in this industry should be about freedom and choice, so decide what's right for you and walk your own path.

We'll talk again soon.

Your friend,


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