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How To Plan a BDSM Session

Updated: Feb 20, 2019




I get asked a lot of questions about BDSM and how to plan a session so I think it’s time we ventured a little further into the rabbit hole to see what it actually entails.


I’ve previously spoken about my own take on BDSM from a mental perspective which is heavily rooted in trust, sensuality and connection but now I’d like to share with you one of my scripts I created for a client not too long ago. No two scripts are the same and I always create a new script bespoke to my client's taste.


So this particular script was created for a client who was new to BDSM. I wanted to ease her in gently but still give her the thrill she was seeking. We spoke in detail about her fantasies and what really turned her on. I used that to form a picture of how our session would play out.


I’ll refer to her as 'client x' (Note the lowercase ‘x’ as she was the sub in this equation.) Client x is in her late 30’s, size 10, tall, toned, short hair with a porcelain complexion. She also loves anal and loves giving blowjobs – and is very good at it. However, this session was more about exploring her erogenous zones through pleasure and pain.


When creating a script I tend to follow the 80/20 rule; 80% scripted and 20% reactive. If she's enjoying something I'll dial it up or down depending on where I intend to take her. (I'm a wicked tease).



So why do I script?


That’s a very good question - The rush of spontaneity is definitely a turn on but in this instance, I’d liken it to a 100-meter sprint. Fast, furious and explosive. My sessions tend to be more like a marathon that puts the client through her paces and then some. I wanted to be able to create an experience that would take client x on a journey through many new and wonderful sensations that climax at various stages of our session.


When I sit down to write I visualise the entire session piece by piece and yes, it’s very erotic. I massage and edit the various sections of the script based on how I want her to feel at any given time. I picture an ocean of orgasmic pleasure swaying back and forth, sometimes peaceful and other times unhinged. But it’s constant, sustained and it builds in intensity to the point of sheer fucking ecstasy.


I spent probably 90 minutes or so creating her session. I titled it ‘Breath’ as client x is a Yoga enthusiast and was keen to explore that side of her sexuality whilst being dominated.




This is how it went down...


BDSM Session Plan - P1


BDSM Session Plan - P2


You can download the word doc here to use as a template but I definitely suggest you create your own tailored to the lucky recipient. This particular script is roughly 3 hours long excluding bath time so pace is important.


For more information on how to play safe go here.



We'll talk again soon.


Your friend,



M



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