Poor Grammar Gets You Fewer Bookings
Updated: Feb 4
If there's one thing I've come to realise it's that women are nothing if not perceptive. How many times have you had a general conversation with a woman and then out of nowhere, she starts firing some analytical Colombo style questions and you're left thinking - huh, how the fuck did we get here?
That's exactly what I mean! Women read into things, they're like interpretation machines that analyse and digest all types of stuff that for the most part, goes straight over our heads as guys.
Women are hard-wired to pick up on subtle cues from the way we dress, walk, talk, sit, stand, eat, drink, kiss, fuck - you name it, they're assessing it. So given the fact that much of our initial contact with new clients will usually be via email and/or text message, how much do you think they judge us based on our written communication skills? The answer is a lot.
I recall a recent conversation with a new client where I asked her what made her contact me, she replied tongue and cheek "because you know the difference between 'your' and 'you're'..."
I laughed, and I completely get it. Basically, she's telling me that she finds an intelligent man who knows how to communicate sexy.
As I've mentioned in the past, the approach you take in terms of how you market yourself should be reflective of the type of client you're trying to attract.
So if the majority of my clients are well educated, wealthy businesswomen, it stands to reason that most won't be using heavily abbreviated text speech and poor grammar. Of course, we are not all native speakers of the same language but we should definitely make an effort to give the right impression.
But when I receive messages like the one below from guys who want my help but don't even bother to include a hello or even a name, I really have to ask myself if I'm even in a position to help them. (If you recognise your handy work below don't take it personally, I'm just making a point)
On the other hand, this one below is much more likely to get a favourable response.
When it comes to how you choose to interact with clients, everyone is different. I tend to use Whatsapp a lot to get to know who I'm talking to as well as the occasional phone call.
Here's an example of how a typical conversation might take place. (Published with client consent.)
This is then followed up with a phone call to discuss things in more detail after which I'll send an email to summarise our conversation. (Again, published with client consent.)
Obviously, not everyone is going to take the same approach but one way or the other, you will be judged on how you communicate with your client. The important thing to do is to play to your strengths whilst also working on the areas where you know improvements can be made.
For me, most of my client bookings are a result of the content that I post on my blog, probably more so than anything else as I target a specific type of client. Some women may not give a shit about what you have to say and will just want to rip your clothes off and fuck you which is cool if that's who you're aiming at. (Hard life I know.)
But much of the advice that I give and the content that I put out in this blog is geared towards high-class escorts who want to attract professional wealthy women for whom, good communication both written and verbal are important.
So with this in mind, I think it's a good idea to be conscious of how we present ourselves because as I said at the beginning of this post, women are creatures of interpretation and they read into things a lot more than we do.
Being slightly dyslexic I'm no stranger to typos so I use Grammarly when I'm writing anything. (I use the free version of Grammarly as the paid one is a little pricey.)
There's a Grammarly browser add-on that pops up whenever you visit a website and write anything which is handy.
I also use 'Read Aloud' which reads my text back to me - it's a life saver.
Here's a quick 'How-to' video this shows you how it works if you're interested.
Remember, most women who contact you will more than likely be nervous or at least a little wary so they will naturally be hypersensitive to everything you say and do. Use every opportunity to convey the right message and being able to string a decent sentence together is a good place to start.
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